Q & A

Q.) What is your officiant fee cost for a wedding?

A.)  We can provide ceremonies, indoors/outdoors, on a beach, coastal areas, or at any venue site location. We create and officiate at our beautiful and memorable ceremonies.

Our Current Fees are as follows: We can provide ceremonies, indoors/outdoors, on a beach, coastal areas, or at any venue site location. We create and officiate at our beautiful and memorable ceremonies which have fees from:

A) $249.oo fee – ELOPEMENT OPTION – (LOCAL-up to 25 miles) plus travel costs to the venue on a Sun, Mon, Tue, Wed, Thu, Fri, Sat, or any Holiday – 2 TO 10 GUESTS — 8-10 minutes ceremony. A preset ceremony script with the exchange of Vows & Rings and Pronouncement. (If not local, the rate is $299 plus travel)

B) $375.oo fee – BASIC WEEKDAY OPTION – plus travel costs to the venue on a Mon, Tue, Wed, Thu, or any Weekday Holiday – 15-20 minutes ceremony.

C) $475.oo fee – STANDARD WEEKEND OPTION – plus travel cost to the venue on a Fri, Sat, Sun, or any Week-end Holiday – 20-30 minutes ceremony.

D) $550.oo fee – PREMIER OPTION-CATHOLIC – plus travel cost to the venue. This option is for a Traditional ceremony and/or a catholic ceremony. This option is with/without Mass & Communion and is a shorter version (25-35 minutes) of a usual Catholic ceremony. Description: D – (Option: We provide a short catholic mass (non-roman) with/without communion and or touches of catholic traditions at any venue.) We can provide these options/rituals to create your MIBWO approved ceremony script. This version of a catholic Ceremony may not be recognized by a particular Roman Diocese. Check your RC Marriage Tribunal for their position. No Pre-Cana counseling is required.

Descriptions: B, C, & D – We provide options to create your MIBWO approved ceremony script. We create a custom wedding ceremony for your wedding that will reflect your selected options and traditions that you want.  In the exchange of Vows and Rings, you can use traditional Vows or you can write your own Vows. You can add a reading or make suggestions to our basic ceremony script for us to approve for use in your ceremony. Additional rituals/options are available such as unity candle, unity sand pouring, flower pot ceremony, the coin wishes tradition, wine blending option, fight box option, rose ceremony, Filipino Traditions: veil/cord/rope/coin option, involve children, mothers raise rings during the ceremony to be blessed, giving roses to Mothers, Grandmothers, Step-parents, etc. Consider a remembrance table with pictures of those not present due to travel constraints or who have passed on. Contact us for details. If requested, “catholic touches” can be added.

E) We also have a $1,995.oo fee – ULTIMATE PACKAGE – (The Bride’s Choice) . . . This option pulls out all the stops! Please request the detailed description of this available package. Too numerous to mention them all here.

Wedding Ceremony Travel Fee to Venue Site Location – Multiple factors are used to determine applicable travel fees. This fee is determined by distance, fuel, parking, tolls, insurance, officiants’ time traveling and other misc. to and from your wedding venue location. If not already known, please contact our office for wedding travel cost details.

Wedding Ceremony Rehearsal – $200.oo fee – We can be available if we don’t have another wedding already scheduled. MIBWO suggests you conduct your own Rehearsal. To save you on costs, we will send you instructions on how to conduct your own Rehearsal, if requested. There is an additional Rehearsal fee and Travel fee if the Officiant is to conduct the Rehearsal. If requested, it is less expensive for a couple to pay for 1 hotel room/2 beds for the Officiants versus having to pay a double travel fee for the Officiant to travel, to and from the wedding venue location. ONLY the Officiant, when present, conducts the Rehearsal, not the couple, the event coordinator or the venue staff.

All these options are available depending on your planning needs and the amount of custom work and planning involved.

 

Q.) Do you have a travel fee to the venue site location?

A.) Yes, multiple factors are used to determine applicable travel fees. This fee is determined by distance, fuel, parking, tolls, insurance, officiants’ time traveling and other misc. to and from your wedding venue location.

 

Q.) Do you attend the wedding rehearsal?

A.) We can be available if we don’t have another wedding already scheduled. To save you on costs, we will send you instructions on how to conduct your own Rehearsal, if requested.  There is an additional Rehearsal fee and Travel fee if the Officiant is to conduct the Rehearsal. Often it is less expensive for a couple to pay for 1 hotel room/2 beds for the Officiants versus having to pay a double travel fee for the Officiant to travel, to and from the wedding venue location for both the Rehearsal and the Wedding Ceremony.

 

Q.) Why select Men in Black Wedding Officiants to officiate at your wedding ceremony?

A.) So here is the bottom line statement to consider in the selection of an Officiant. A fair number of couples wanting full-ceremony-planning, contact us on very short notice. What is sad here, is that couples who selected an officiant because they got the officiant and his/her fee on the “cheap” yet they are untrained and inexperienced in officiating, who could possibly “wing it” as an officiant at their ceremony. But then that officiant either does a very poor job officiating and is not a public speaker or he backs out at the last minute, without having another backup officiant for the couple, planned into his services that he provides, and this situation occurs often! In addition, the couple and the untrained officiant have created a script for the couple’s wedding ceremony. Each seems to have expected the other to provide a script. Why would a couple even risk this and have such an alleged individual ruin their wedding day ceremony? For the time and expense incurred for a wedding, why contract with untrained officiants because their fee is “cheap”  Risking an officiant with no experience in performing a ceremony, is just a path to total disaster in the ceremony. A trained and educated officiant is needed to be the Celebrant officiating at weddings and public events. He/she needs to speak well, be articulate, and to have aura-of-presence and take command of the ceremony script so the ceremony is a meaningful and memorable event for the couple, the families, and the guests as the couple now gets married. Only a trained officiant, who is not on the “cheap” can ever accomplish this for a couple’s wedding ceremony. At times a couple selects an individual to do a reading.  The reader, however, needs to be coached as to how to read in public. The officiant needs to prep the reader on HOW to read aloud,  read slow, hold the MIC close to his/her mouth so the reading is articulate, engaging and inviting with the couple’s guests attending. However, couples who select an officiant gotten “on the cheap” and that officiant is not aware he is to instruct the reader on HOW to properly read as a public speaker, then the reader struggles and is mumbling the printed word with the MIC down at his waist. No one then hears the reader nor is interested in what they are saying! This wonderful one-time event can only be achieved by a trained officiant because the couple only gets one chance, to get it right. In conclusion, would you really ask your Dentist to rebuild your car engine? Hardly! Contract only with a trained and educated officiant with years of experience in marrying couples and an officiant that has over 100 plus positive Reviews from the couples that the officiant has married. Men in Black Wedding Officiants have been marrying couples for over 30 years, have officiated at over 2,100 wedding ceremonies, has over 100 plus positive 5 STAR reviews from couples. Our ceremony options and the fees are fair but are not on the “cheap” because of all our work and attention we put into the ceremony planning with and for the couple for their big day. Our officiating services are worth far more than the deep frustration and disappointment a couple will experience on the most important day of their lives when selecting an untrained and inexperienced person acting as an officiant to marry you.

 

Q.) Do you offer Pre-Marital Counseling or Pre-Cana sessions?

A.) Yes. Counseling is offered by phone or in-person with a couple. The sessions depend on what issues a couple has. In addition, a couple may face outside influences that can determine the number of sessions to address issues. The number of sessions and time a couple needs determines the cost. There is no perfect number of sessions. We recommend 30-60 minute sessions. The number of sessions is up to the couple to request according to the officiant’s schedule. These days with work schedules, many other obligations and the time needed to travel to us often have the sessions accomplished by phone. Once set in place usually a Tuesday and a Thursday night from 8 pm generally works. Approx. 4-10 sessions are what is required especially if there are issues outside the couple causing challenges to the couple’s future married life together that needs to be to addressed.

 

Q.) What is your typical process for working with a new couple?

A.) We contact a couple right after they contact us. We then address the couple’s ceremony needs and share wedding ceremony ideas and suggestions for them to consider for their ceremony planning. Once a couple selects us and completes the registration documents then we and the couple create and write a custom-designed ceremony script for their wedding day. This can include certain wedding traditions and rituals appropriate to them. The couple can write their own vows if desired, or use traditional Vows to exchange in their ceremony.

 

Q.) What education, training, and background do you have that validates you as an officiant?

A.) We have officiated at over 2,100 weddings. We have excellent reviews from the many couples we married, who were amazed at our ceremony Officiant services. As experienced wedding Officiants, we were trained and Ordained in person. We were not appointed in 10 minutes from an internet computer using a credit card. We Attended over 10 years of formal registered Seminary College and Graduate School of studies in Philosophy and Theology. We respect all spiritual traditions and religions as well as perform ceremonies that are religious, secular, or non-religious. We have over 30 years of experience. We are old enough having the required wisdom and experience, and yet young enough to be flexible with a sense of humor in a ceremony. The ceremony IS your wedding! The key here is to secure the right wedding officiant for you to start Married life, and thus choose the Men In Black Wedding Officiants. The ceremony can be traditional, casual, or reflective using religious or non-religious customs. We make your ceremony the most beautiful day in your life. We do not impose our religious beliefs on anyone. The MEN IN BLACK Wedding Officiants have Officiated at all types of ceremonies.

 

Q.) How did you get started doing this type of work?

A.) Having been in religious life for over 40 years and seeing the needs of those with different beliefs and positions than ours, I believed we needed to be inviting and engaging of all positions from a couple, family and guests. The enjoyment we have from seeing the glow on a couple’s face as they get married and is super happy with us officiating their ceremony is really beyond words and makes the work we do very satisfying to us.

 

Q.) What types of couples have you worked with?

A.) We have worked with all couples–Non-Denominational/Denominational, Inter-Faith, Military Honor Guard, Spiritual, Catholic, Marriage Equality- LGBTQIAPK, Vow Renewals, Elopements, Funerals and Baptisms/Christenings. The are many tasks required by many vendors for the Officiant to coordinate with, as to have all the ceremony details intermesh for a smooth and inviting ceremony to occur. This usually involves about 10-20 hours of preparation time per ceremony. Our officiant services keeps a couple in the loop, by ongoing phone calls, texts, and emails. The preparation work involved of a wedding ceremony planning from start to finish plus the actual travel time to and from a couple’s wedding venue location to perform the ceremony, the signing and registration of the legal wedding documents with the State afterward, takes a lot of time! We create a ceremony with sensitivity, with light humor as to keep the family and guests engaged in the ceremony, and we create a sense of awe with a spiritual reflective tone. This explains in more detail all that is involved on our part to prepare and to Officiate at your ceremony. We hope that you consider using our Officiant services for your wedding ceremony. You do this once. Have it done right…with the professional approach of an Officiant who has the grace and experience to create your wedding experience that married couples need for their special moment. This is the mission statement of the Men in Black Wedding Officiants

 

Q.) What advice would you give a couple looking to contracting an Officiant?

A.) Register early, complete the registration & contract forms and send in the required deposit fees, to secure and book your date & time, as many couples often call and request the same date. To be fair to all, we work on a first-come, first-serve basis. Your deposit reserves and secures our time available for your wedding date & time in our schedule.

 

Q.) What should couples think about before talking to an Officiant about their wedding?

A.) Couples should invest the time to research what they want at their wedding. WRITE IT DOWN. KEEP A BINDER OF ALL THE PLANNING ASPECTS. Become familiar with all the ceremony options available to them, so they understand what we can do as Officiants for them, in order to custom create those traditions and rituals into a ceremony that are appropriate to them. Once again, a couple’s ceremony can be traditional, casual, spiritual or reflective or with secular traditions. It is only then when we have and know that input from a couple, is when we can make your wedding ceremony one of the most specular and beautiful days in your life, in becoming husband and wife.